Please! Can’t You Just Sit Still and Pay Attention?
Mary Anna Dunn, Ed.D.
Among
the concerns I have heard raised by enrichment providers, problems with
distractibility and impulsiveness are certainly among the most common.
Though it may be tempting to assume children with these issues all
have ADHD, not every child who has issues with distractibility and
impulse control has ADHD. Some are simply on the high end of active for
any number of possible reasons.
Given that the
relationship between the enrichment provider and the child is often very
short term, it may not be necessary to know whether or not the child
has ADHD or is struggling because of other, possibly temporary issues
(such as adjusting to the unfamiliar environment of your program). What
is important is this: if a child’s distractibility or impulse control
challenges are interfering with her own or her peers’ opportunities to
thrive in your program, she needs your help.
Keep in
mind that you are not going to “fix” this child. You are not going to
eliminate all problems that come up due to his challenges. But there
are modifications and accommodations that may significantly improve his
chances of having a positive experience in your program.
There
is no one-size-fits-all approach. Look these tips over and pick and
choose from the suggestions that work best for each individual.
Remember that the child’s parents or guardians are among the best
resources you can have for understanding how to support their child.
Ask them for suggestions. I will write about communicating with families
in a subsequent blog.
TIPS FOR SUPPORTING IMPULSIVE AND DISTRACTIBLE CHILDREN
For the next week, I will post a tip each day under the distractibility/impulsiveness strand.
A note on gender: in order to avoid the awkwardness of “his or her,” I will alternate gender between sections.
Where
examples are provided, care has been taken to disguise the identity of
the child. The names are fictitious, and the child’s gender may or may
not be the same as the actual child. Other details may also have been
altered for the sake of anonymity.
1. Spend some time focusing not on the child’s challenges, but on her gifts. Often the very behaviors that are driving you crazy are also a window into her delightful mind.
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Building this robot kept a highly active student on-task. |
This
summer, I was asked to observe a six year-old in a summer program who
was having difficulty due to her distractibility and impulsiveness.
When I arrived, the children were finishing breakfast. Within a few
minutes of my arrival, she, like the others at her table, was beginning
to clean up. She and her peers were gathering up napkins, placing forks
in bowls, closing cereal boxes, and making all the other normal
preparations for putting their snacks away. But as the other children
continued with this unremarkable daily chore, I saw a gleam in our
girl’s eye. Soon, she was building a tower of her breakfast articles.
As the construction project rose perilously, the entire table began to
shout, “Look what Georgia is doing!” Her behavior was problematic, but
this child was a budding engineer, asking just the types of questions we
want children to ask: What happens if I do this? How can I make this
better?
Distractibility and impulsiveness are
challenges. Flexibility and spontaneity are opportunities. Identify
the ways your student demonstrates the latter, and help her develop
these wonderful gifts.
2.
Pay attention to seating arrangements.
- For group work, I prefer a learning environment in which children are seated in a circle.
There are many reasons for this. For the sake of brevity, I will focus
on those that affect the distractible/impulsive child: It keeps him in
your line of vision and you in his; it leaves no one in the back of the
room, where attention may more easily wander; it enables you to keep all
distractible children near you, without seating them next to each
other.
- Pay attention to how children are grouped. Separate children who tend to get each other off-task.
- Make note of potential distractions close to your student.
An open window, a hall door, a colorful bulletin board, a pet, these are
all things that some children can tune out and other’s cannot. An
intervention may be nothing more complicated than quietly shutting the
hall door as another group goes by, or rearranging the room so that
circle time does not occur next to the salt water aquarium.
- For small group and individual activities, it is important to
make sure that a child who needs to focus is not seated next to a loud
group. Sometimes noise is a symptom of engaged, meaningful
learning, especially during the creative types of activities that happen
during out-of-school time. The hubbub that can signal an engaged group
can also be a distraction, but simple steps can improve the
distractible child’s ability to concentrate. Try some of these ideas:
- place a table in a corner, with a chair facing a relatively bare wall and let her work there;
- allow the child to work just outside of the main room, door open, child in plain view;
- if they must be in the same room, place stations that are
potentially noisy, such as board games, across the room from quite
activities, such as drawing.
- Consider providing soft, air filled cushions to place on a child’s seat if he is inclined to rock his chair. Not only is this safer, it is less irritating than the constant clang of chair legs on the floor.
3.
Use your environment to support the child’s regulation of attention and impulses.
- Your goal needs to be to draw your student’s attention towards what
you want her to attend, and away from what you don’t want her to attend.
Teachers often do this by using brightly colored chalk or dry erase
markers, sometimes changing colors to highlight key concepts.
- Conversely, it is nice to have an area of the room that is
relatively free from distractions such as posters, mobiles, pets,
diorama’s etc, where the student can go if he needs to focus (see
above).
4.
Make sure “just sit time” is of an appropriate length and your distractible/impulsive students are well-supported.
It can be frustrating to witness what happens when well-meaning adults
ask children to sit or stand quietly for inappropriate lengths of time,
either listening to instructions or waiting for something to happen.
This “just sit time” provides ample opportunity for the mind and the
body to wander and the fidgets to set in. Keep in mind that a child’s
attention span is shorter than an adult’s.
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This skating teacher has her students' focus. | . |
- Do your best to keep the amount of time you are talking and children are listening short.
If possible, break instructions into small chunks. Not only does this
take less time, it makes retention of information easier. As an
example, if your group is about to learn a new ballgame, don’t keep them
on the sidelines listening to the rules of the entire game. Give them
one set of instructions, let them practice, then move on to the next set
of instructions.
- As already described above, pay attention to where your distractible/impulsive child is placed during ‘‘just sit time.” If possible, seat an adult beside him.
- Use visual cues. Some people are just not auditory learners
and are really going to struggle when instructions are presented
verbally, yet that is often how they are presented, especially outside
of the classroom. In addition to your spoken instructions, use written
instructions and/or drawings. Simple stick figures are just fine; you
don’t need to be an artist. Visual cues are important for two reasons:
they provide a focal point and a child whose attention has wandered
needs a visual cue to get his bearings again. Often out-of-school time
activities do not take place in a regular classroom, so you may find it
challenging to provide these visual cues. Consider having a small easel
chart or dry erase board handy in non-classroom spaces. Or, if
available, pass out written instructions as a reference for those who
need them.
- Sometimes “just sit time” happens during transitions, for example,
your group has finished archery and cannot go the pool yet. Be prepared to keep the children’s attention when they are waiting for the next thing to happen.
Great classroom teachers have a stock of tricks, or “time sponges,”
they use to soak up those minutes of down time such as telling or
reading stories, playing word, rhythm or guessing games, or asking the
children interesting questions about themselves. For examples of “time
sponges” see
http://www.teachercreated.com/blog/2009/03/sponge-activities/.
- Provide the child with a meaningful activity during “just sit time.” For example, passing out paint brushes.
- Keep your activities varied and alternate the types of activities. Try especially to mix up activities that require quiet focusing with activities that engage the whole body.
5.
Monitor your student closely, especially during times known to be problematic, such as transitions and “
just sit time”. Notice symptoms of restlessness and use cues to redirect her.
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Soft, simple "fidgets". |
- Making eye contact is often enough.
- Consider saying her name if you cannot make eye contact, but be
mindful that by doing so, you are drawing everyone’s attention to her
struggle.
- Unless there are rules in your organization against it, a light touch on the arm or shoulder can be helpful.
- Develop one or two simple hand signals so that you can communicate
privately with a child who is struggling. As examples, a finger to lips
when she is talking out of turn, a finger pointed down to remind her to
sit.
- Some teachers use laminated charts with rules, sometimes
pictorially expressed, and quietly point to the rule that has been
transgressed.
- Quietly remove a distracting object, perhaps replacing it with a
less annoying alternative. For example, if a child is banging a soda
bottle on the table over and over again, move the bottle and pass her a
soft fidget ball (nothing that bounces!).
- Keep “fidgets” on-hand. In addition to soft cloth balls, we keep
coiled key chains, socks filled with beans, and other inexpensive, quiet
items. I have seen one of our staff members support a child simply by
handing him her own wrist band to play with.

6.
Keep your behavioral toolbox well-stocked with a variety of excellent tools. If
you are running a short program, maybe an art class that meets one hour
a week for six weeks, you may not be interested in setting up more than
a minimal set of guidelines, but an afterschool program or summer day
camp that meets everyday for several hours and over an extended period
of time is going to need a strong management program. If you are in one
of these programs, such as a public school afterschool program or a
private summer long day camp, you probably already have a system in
place. Strategies and philosophies vary and in many cases are
established through system-wide policies over which the individual
provider has little control. In the space below I will discuss a few
behavioral strategies. Consider how these could work in your programs.
- Have a written set of rules visible in your primary workspace.
Classroom teachers often develop these rules collaboratively with
their students. Review the rules frequently and refer to them, or ask
the child to refer to them himself, when he is struggling.
- If you use a reward system, keep it simple and use it sparingly.
Be aware that the use of rewards is highly controversial. I am a
moderate on this topic. I believe that some difficult behaviors respond
well to reward systems, but children who are rewarded throughout the day
may become jaded by the rewards and in addition, loose their sense of
internal (or intrinsic) motivation. It is my own belief that rewards
should be used only to target a small number of specific behaviors, and
that rewards and the systems of delivering them should be changed
occasionally. If reward systems are used, I like to see them
incorporated into a multi-dimensioned approach to discipline that
includes creating a supportive, positive climate and emphasizes internal
motivation. Finally, I would urge program leaders who would like to
implement reward and punishment systems to do so thoughtfully, after
thoroughly researching the most effective systems, rather than as a knee
jerk reaction. A poorly implemented reward system may potentially do
more harm than good.
- Take note of positive behaviors. If you are trying to help a
child refocus, you may be spending a lot of time calling her attention
(and often everyone else’s attention) to her negative behaviors. If all
you ever notice is disruptive behavior, eventually the child and her
peers are only going to think of her as a disruptive child. Please take
the time to notice what she does well and provide her opportunities to
do it in an appropriate setting. Remember the child who built a tower
out of her breakfast items? While I sure don’t recommend reinforcing
this experiment, it would be great to later on make note of her building
skills and provide her with construction materials. Make it a point to
call the other children’s attention to her accomplishment (of course,
you want to do this with the rest of the children as well).
- Do not take away active time as a punishment. Remember,
these are children who need to move. Restricting their movements by
keeping them in for recess or making them miss horseback riding is not
going to help them succeed. I am not saying I am opposed to imposing
consequences—just not consequences that are going to make success even
less likely.
7.
Adapt your direct instruction methods. Even
though this is not an academic setting, there will be instructional
time. Children need to be told how to play golf, make a pizza, build a
shelter, paint a mural, or participate in whatever activities your
program is carrying out. I have already discussed incorporating visual
cues. There are other ways you can make sure your instructional time is
successful. The steps that make this easier for struggling students will
surely be appreciated by the rest of your group, as they simply make
your program more interesting and accessible to everyone.

- Introduce a topic by connecting it with something the children already know and have some interest in.
For example, instead of starting a mask-making activity by talking
about African ceremonial masks, ask the children when they have worn
masks and why. Use their comments to segue into your explanation,
referring back to their comments when possible. “Shanna said she wore a
dog mask for Halloween. Well, African ceremonial masks are often animal
masks, but aren’t used for trick-or-treating. I wonder if anyone has an
idea what they are for.”
- Don’t do all the talking. Give your students a chance to talk about what they know, as well as to raise questions.
- Break tasks down into small, manageable components and allow frequent breaks.
I hope that some of these hints will prove to be helpful in
assisting the child who shows signs of distractibility and/or
impulsiveness. At the same time, I would like to ask that the
enrichment provider remember this: the fact that a child’s behavior is
different does not necessarily mean it is a problem. Recently, a staff
member shared this story with me. He was assisting a child with special
needs in a tennis lesson. The child was constantly in motion and seemed
to be looking at anything BUT the instructor. His mentor did not think
he was following the lesson. However, when the tennis instructor later
asked him what he was supposed to do, the child was able to repeat back
the precise instructions. Thank goodness the mentor waited to see if
the child understood before he intervened. Not only was his activity
not preventing him from learning, it is entirely possible it was a form
of self-stimulation that was
helping him attend.
Some
behaviors are problematic for others, even if they are not for the
child, but often with a child who is really different than the pack, we,
and not the child, are the ones who need some adjustments.
This discussion is far from exhaustive. I have tried to focus only on
those strategies that will help in enrichment programs that take place
outside of the regular school day.
I have chosen a few
websites that may provide more comprehensive discussions for those who
wish to read more. While these sites do specifically focus on attention
deficit hyperactivity disorder, I wish to re-emphasize that not every
highly active or impulsive child has ADHD. I do think that the
strategies that are successful with these children are applicable to
children whose challenges stem from other sources.
For further reading I suggest the following websites:
http://www.additudemag.com
http://www.chadd.org/
http://www.helpguide.org/mental/adhd_add_teaching_strategies
htm
http://www.drhallowell.com/add-adhd/adhd-for-teachers/
http://special-ism.com/creating-visuals-on-the-fly-for-unpredictable-activities/
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